Episode 23

Published on:

17th Oct 2019

023: "Why are you other-ing me?" Assimilating as a mestiza with Marjory Ware

First generation Filipino/white woman, Marriage and Family Therapist in Washington State, and enneagram nerd Marjory Ware immigrated to America at 16 years old. Marjory shares the complexities of assimilating as a mestiza, how she finds validation in her practice as a therapist, and encourages our listeners to find "your people" - the ones that will accept you for who you are. 

Connect with Marjory Ware on Instagram @mkwcounseling or listen to her new podcast Therapeutic Bullshit at https://www.therapeuticbullshit.com/podcast 

It's Filipino American History Month and this month's theme is... Pinay Visionaries: Celebrating Filipina American Women! Learn more at http://fanhs-national.org/filam/about/ Give a shout out to the Pinay Visionary in your life! Reach out to us with any of the options below! 

In celebration of Filipino American History Month, we feature Ruby Ibarra as this episode’s Pinay Visionary! Learn more about Ruby at https://www.rubyibarra.com/ or follow her on Instagram @rubyibarra. Special thanks to @annadidathing from Instagram for the recommendation! 


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The Filipino American Woman Project
Stories and life lessons by Filipino American women
Welcome to the Filipino American Woman Project - A Podcast Show that shares stories and life lessons told by individuals living (or have lived) in America, that are of Filipino descent and identify as female or non-binary.

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Jen Amos

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Jen Amos found podcasting in summer 2019 as a way to work through bouts of loneliness and mild depression. She had recently moved from San Diego, CA (her home of 20+ years) to now Virginia Beach, VA with her husband and fur baby.

Jen is an advocate for promoting personal narratives. She is known for her active listening skills, candidness, and ability to uncover powerful stories and life lessons while interviewing her guests live. Her favorite topics to cover on her shows involve military families, entrepreneurship, the Filipino American woman experience, and mental health.

Prior to podcasting and moving to the east coast, Jen received her Bachelor’s in Journalism emphasis Public Relations at San Diego State University and was fired from her fourth consecutive job in her young adult years. For nearly a decade since, Jen has established a career in sales and in entrepreneurship with experience in the legal industry, online marketing, and financial services.

Jen’s been featured on multiple media outlets including Psychology Diary, Mochi Magazine, VirtForce, Ossa Collective, SUPERBANDS, Chopsticks Alley, FoundHer by Entrepinayship, Military Veteran Dad Podcast, SD Voyager, FedEx Office, The San Diego Union Tribune, NBC 7 San Diego, The Living East, and much more. Her show, The Filipino American Woman (TFAW) Project, has recently been recognized as "Amplifying Asian Women Voices" on Spotify during AAPI Heritage Month 2020. In 2018, her and her husband’s business, US VetWealth, was named 2018 Best Entrepreneur Start Up Company Awardee by the San Diego Business Journal & The Rosie Network.

Despite the multiple media outlets, events and organizations Jen has been fortunate to be a guest speaker throughout the years, her favorite medium of speaking has been through podcasting.

Nani Dominguez

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Nani discovered podcasting haphazardly in the summer of 2019 after reaching out to then-solo-host of the TFAW Project, Jen Amos, to express the significant impact the show was having on her own self-discovery path. After one long & surprisingly intimate phone conversation, they decided to co-host the show together going forward.

By the way of her biracial identity, Nani brings a unique approach to the conversation by offering an intersectional perspective that allows guests and listeners alike to be vulnerable with themselves and explore their most authentic narratives. Together, Jen and Nani create a safe space for fellow Filipinx-Americans to contemplate our shared cultural/family experience, lived & inherited traumas, and the history of our heritage, people & land.

"As a mestiza (or mixed Pinay), I've struggled to find spaces I fit into without feeling like I'm "not (something) enough". Throughout the course of my life my identity has been oversimplified due to my lack of a solid understanding of where I come from. Therefore, I've enabled others to guide my experience & beliefs about who I am. This ultimately resulted in resentment for my own self-image; producing feelings of self-loathing, inadequacy, and unworthiness that plagued my past relationships & interconnections.

I'm proud to be spearheading this project with Ate Jen to promote healing and decolonization in our community, while reclaiming the narrative of the Filipino-American woman."

In addition to podcasting, Nani extends her efforts to normalize the neoteric Fil-Am experience by writing about culture, wellness and community on her blog. Notesbynani.com is an active documentation of personal recordings she hopes will later serve others going through similar identity crises, relationship issues, trying to process generational trauma, and other mental health issues prevalent in our families and culture.

These two projects along with her involvement in local community organizing represent Nani's own self-reflection and her desire to help others. She dedicates her work & elective time to the cause she's most passionate about - community healing. As for her day job, she's worked in Administrative Operations supporting C-suite executives for over a decade. Over the years, she's mastered her expertise by trying her hand in a variety of industries including financial services, healthcare & technology, entertainment, and cosmetics.

When she's not working on her craft, you can catch her making Spotify playlists, drinking matcha lattes, meditating, and spreading love & light online.